Physical chemistry or just emotional compatibility?

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Today while i was drinking hot tea with lemon, one interesting thought came to my mind. We, humans, are searching for love and care, but we can not answer the question why we choose exactly this person for our life or other one. And I think most of the people, if not to tell all of us, confused physical chemistry and emotional compatibility with partner.

When the initial fascination passes, we find a person nearby whose values, interests and aspirations are far from ours. But compatibility without "chemistry" does not lead to anything good. At the beginning of a relationship, we tend to show to our partner the best qualities and notice only best traits also. But the honeymoon phase ends sooner or later. And what will stay? Lust, love or just compatibility? I began to think about what should be included to the relationship where not only the chemistry plays main role but also the affection, respect and love.

And I think first is a comfort. You need to feel total comfort with each other, without fears and worries.

On second place-I believe should be passion and tenderness.

On third- is respect of course. Couple needs to respect each other.

Also important thing- core values are the same.

You don’t try to change each other.

Important is a desire to develop together and separately. I believe everyone needs to have free time to do what he wants, what he likes, maybe some hobby.

And the last one… future goals should be the same too. If one wants kids and his partner doesn’t, they will have no future together. If you want to travel but your partner is a home sitter – relationship will not last long.

Understanding of it will lead to great relationship and I hope that it will help me in future to build such relationship with someone who thinks the same and not confused physical chemistry and emotional compatibility or just lust with partner.

Have a nice time of the day for everyone who reads it now!
Oksana