Dinner....To be or not to be....

Hello.

Centuries and years we are thinking about behave during dates. How it should be, about what better to talk about, where to go, how to go, what clothes to pick out. But some topics are still not very polite to discuss. And because of it most people are still alone. I am talking about…who should to pay for meals after date? Woman? Or man? pay equally? Because of this men are afraid to invite woman to the date to the restaurant or coffee shop or any other place, because it is naturally that we have times when there is not enough means for restaurant. Also I need to tell that most women are afraid of first date or any other date because of this topic too. They don’t know how to behave. Women don’t know what THAT man would think as good and polite behave when it is time to pay after dinner. So that’s why women refuse to go somewhere and possible relationship would never start.

As for me, I am very straight woman and I believe better to discuss everything first. I believe that couple need to pay equally or everyone just for himself, because you don’t know if this connection will go to the relationship. Maybe after first date both of you would understand that it is good person but he or she is not what you need, so there will be no any other meeting. And it is completely fine . And if someone would pay for both, they both would have not good feeling after. Feelings that you owe something to her or him after that.

So if man is interested in me, he should not be afraid to begin build relationship with me. I would be glad to pay for myself and it is fine to discuss topic of such things. I would be glad to find man who is straight and open as me too and ho doesn’t afraid to discuss things that people usually not discuss! Trust is building step by step ,but trust should be between couple. And NO fear! I want man would not feel fear to talk about anything with me!!!
Julia