Pandora’s box.

Hi!

Today I had emotionally a difficult day. My friend had a big fight with her husband and came to me with permission to spend night at my place. The reason of such a big fight was a problem of no trust in their relationship. She has a habit to check his letters, text messages and calls. She is afraid that he would communicate with someone behind her back or even would have a love affair with someone more beautiful and more younger than she is. So tonight her husband came into room much faster than she expected and he found his phone in her hands. As far as I know, she never found nothing in his phone or computer yet.

Their fight made me think, is it reasonable to not trust to your partner? Is it reasonable to open the Pandora's box- phone or computer to check anything there? I know one thing. If someone really loves you and trust you, care and don’t want to lose you- that person will never cheat on you. I am telling about classical way of relationship, where is one man and one woman only.

Of course it is life and feelings can subside, but even in this case your partner will tell you, will share with you feelings and thoughts and you will decide your future together. But if you will check letters and calls, you will just pull the trigger and start the countdown to your relationship. Without trust and without open conversations your relationship will be finished very soon. If you're always waiting for something – it will happen early or later. Suspicions kill feelings and sooner or later your partner will be able to sow the idea in his head that you can really cheat, why not?

So my conclusion is to NOT open Pandora’s box. To not control your partner. Give some freedom and you will see that your beloved person wants to spend with you more free time and will want to share with you all details of his life. I will never check nothing, I want a total trust in my future relationship! Never doubt in your love and happiness is guaranteed to you!
Aleksandra