Is it all up to us?

Do you agree with this expression? Nowadays there is a large percentage of divorces, scandals among couples, and everyone gets frustrated with his or her other half. Why? People have too many illusions about other people. And as a rule their illusions, they do not speak out loud, mostly air romantic castles are built only in the head. And in the end, these dreams do not become a reality in most cases, which leads to disappointment. Girls especially tend to dream and hope that they will fix a man (yes, yes, I have heard many cases myself)).