balance ...

Many people know that in order to make a jug, the potter seeks balance. One of his hands must be very firm to support. And the other hand should be soft - to give the clay the desired shape. If you do not keep this balance, the pitcher will not work. It may turn out a crooked bowl, or maybe just a piece of clay. If the relationship does not have a balance of rigor and Love - they cannot develop. They either collapse from violence, or die from permissiveness.